From: "ANJA KEINATH / OEB-STUDENTIN" Organization: FH Stuttgart HBI Date: Thu, 4 May 2000 12:58:27 MEST Subject: VERY happy e-mail for a change X-Confirm-Reading-To: "ANJA KEINATH / OEB-STUDENTIN" X-pmrqc: 1 Priority: normal X-mailer: Pegasus Mail for Win32 (v3.12b) Hi love..:) First of all, thanks again for calling me last night. I was HOPING somehow that through some magical link you would, but this was rather wishful thinking than a real thought...:) Glad you did, though. As I said, I was tempted to phone you as well, but thought you might not have read my e-mail by that time and would be too surprised or not the first one to answer the phone.... I'll phone you tonight; this is one of the things that helps me to make it through the day...:) etc, etc....... Hey..... I'll "hear you" tonight, okay? I mean, you will probably not read this before we can talk, but anyway...**laughing** Love you very much, you know.. Can't wait until I can come back to you and STAY! **happy smile** Take care, love, and have a nice (un-disturbed) sleep tonight....:) See you....Anja. From: M******.K*****@t-online.de (M****** K******) Subject: :) Date: Thu, 27 Jul 2000 20:18:43 +0200 X-Mailer: Microsoft Outlook Express 5.00.2919.6600 Hi my love...........:))) Do you know that I am very very happy to know and love you? Not sure why, but since reading your latest e-mails this feeling is very strong and keeps a smile on my face.... Hmm, probably just missing your closeness too much these days........**smiling**. Now that the exams are over I can finally concentrate on moving to Ireland, and you, of course. etc, etc.... I'll see you then.... Take care, won't you? Don't forget me in the meantime.....;) Love you. Anja. From: "ANJA KEINATH / OEB-STUDENTIN" Organization: FH Stuttgart HBI Date: Mon, 10 Jul 2000 12:38:52 MEST Subject: Oh..... Still tired? Priority: normal X-mailer: Pegasus Mail for Win32 (v3.12b) Hi my dearest love..........:) Thanks for writing such a long e-mail even though you were still quite tired after the long and exhausting journey... Just hope last night was more peaceful than those last weeks? Wish I could make sure you are relaxed and content NOW and not in a few week's time! Promise me you'll take good care of yourself? As you recommended to me last week, try to do only what is necessary at the moment and forget all the other things you thought urgent, okay? Last night I was once again tempted to give you a quick phone call, but it seems the God(s) were against it, as it was impossible to get a connection to your mobile phone... As you said, it IS a stupid thing! **laughing** Anyhow... Perhaps it was just as good we didn't spend a few hours talking, though, considering the tired state you were in..... Hmmm.... Do you think we could talk tonight? Just for half an hour or so, okay? Just to say hi...... **smiling** If it is possible, perhaps you could give me a quick phone call so I can call you back, knowing it is "save" to do so.....:) (20:00/21:00?) I'm sure A.J. and C**** will like the house when they see it. They can visit you (us) as often as they like, of course, if they don't mind my being there (if they prefer to see you alone, I could just go out for a while or they could come on the Saturdays I have to work? Even though I'd prefer to see them as well, of course....). It is really good we have two bedrooms there....:) I'm so looking forward to living with you.....**smiling** etc, etc... Well now, have to go.... Must speak with the secretary and then we have English.... (Iiiiiiieeeeeeee!). I'll see you, hmm? Tonight perhaps? "Think of me, and try to imagine at times how great it will be in a few weeks when we'll have each other's company (and love...) in our little house..." Well, do you think I do anything else these days?! **smiling** Just had a very nice day-dream in our last lecture (computer-based communication) about us and the house.... Mmmmmmm.......:) By the way, vegetables and potatoes are some of the things I can cook! **laughing** Already thought about numerous variations of them, you know! But don't worry... I'll bring my "cooking books" so I don't think we'll have to live on the same boring diet each day....:) Love you. Anja. From: M******.K*****@t-online.de (M****** K******) Subject: Sorry.....:'-) Date: Sat, 29 Jan 2000 21:44:04 +0100 X-Mailer: Microsoft Outlook Express 5.00.2314.1300 Hi A******...:) Well, I'm still feeling a little uneasy about last night, as it was certainly not too good for us to separate after such a negative chat. And it was stupid of me to say I might not write daily during the next few days, because whatever problems there are, they have certainly nothing to do with you. Quite the contrary, I suppose, normally you have a very beneficial effect on my mood... **smile**. Last night I was simply tired and annoyed with myself, you know. Didn't mean to mention it at all. I guess the whole situation is simply to hard to bear for both of us at times, and that is why anger or frustration breaks through when we finally "meet" at the week-ends... (Hmm... Any suggestions for solving this problem..?) Are you okay? I was so busy thinking about my own problems that I almost forgot yours. All night long I tried to imagine what is/wrong with you and wished I had not been so !)§/(%/"§/!(°! selfish....:(((( You could not tell me what happened over the last week and especially today, but I feel it was not very easy. Whatever it is/was that worries you these days, you can depend on my thinking of you constantly, okay? (even at times I only talk about myself **grr**!!) If I could, I'd be with you for help and support in a physical sense as well....**encouraging smile**... Want to hold you and tell you everything is going to be okay... Kiss you and make sure you get some time to relax... Be near you and talk with you...:) Hey, forgot to tell you "in person" last night... I love you...:)))))) A. From: "ANJA KEINATH / OEB-STUDENTIN" Organization: FH Stuttgart HBI Date: Mon, 3 Jul 2000 15:30:28 MEST Subject: Mmmm.... Want to talk with you every day and not just two hours in five days! Priority: normal X-mailer: Pegasus Mail for Win32 (v3.12b) Hi love....:) You know well enough that there is absolutely no need to thank me for suggesting a little phone chat last night, my dear! **laughing** It would have been absolutely impossible to fall asleep had we not talked, you know. Oh, and already I wish we could do that each night (not in five weeks but now!) but I know it is just not possible, for many reasons. Yet, at least once more this week we could, don't you think? **grin** etc, etc...... Have to go now... Take care, my love, and think of me.....:))))) Hey..... I'm really looking forward to everything.... :)))) Yours always, Anja. PS: Listen... I know you will not be able to go back to your current life... Okay, so my car will not be sold for half a year and my insurance is German, but believe me, I really do not intend to leave you and go back. Of course one could say I'm too young to make such a decision, but something just tells me that we are doing the right thing and will be able to cope with whatever problems might occur..... It won't be easy at times perhaps, but we'll make it... Sorry I read your sweet e-mail before it was actually SENT! Just stumbled over it while changing some of the mails I want to send...:) Do you that I'm very happy here with you? I never really had an idea of how it would be for us to live together, I just didn't think about it but only about whether everything would fit into the parcels or not...LOL At times when we're watching TV and the fire creates this wonderfully warm and somehow unreal athmosphere I find it hard to believe how happy I am (we are...). (Written on September 6th, 2000, while living together in Ireland: We would still occasionally send brief e-mails to each other, even though we were together by now. This was her reply to one such message I had written to her, which she had accidentally read before I'd had the chance to send it....) And finally, my very last e-mail from Anja, after I had attempted to call her by phone, in April of 2002, to try to prevent the situation between us from becoming any worse than it was by then, and to retain at least some semblance of friendship and civility from the ruins of the love we had shared (or at least I believed we had shared!), the evidence of which is contained in the many e-mails above. From M******.K*****@t-online.de (M****** K******) Date Thu, 18 Apr 2002 175121 +0200 X-Mailer Microsoft Outlook Express 6.00.2600.0000 X-Sender 0*47*[email protected] For your information. I have lodged a complaint / made a denuciation at the police because of menace. The responsible officer is Mr Kramer, his e-mail-address is d9*1*27*10@****.***.de, his telephone number is 07475-8*1**2*, in case you want to reassure yourself that this is not a joke. Please consider the consequences of what you have been doing so far and your future actions. A. Keinath.

"They cannot love normally. For them real and healthy love is a loss of control which they can ill afford. They can fake it, they can simulate it and even declare it effusively, but they can never make the sacrifices that true love demands. Real love needs truth to exist, and truth is a commodity in short supply in a narcissist." "They do not think in a normal manner. They have a disorder that makes them process reality differently to the rest of us. Do not be fooled, they can function and pass for normal. This is what is so frightening; they are incredible mimics of real human beings. To them, it is not even hypocrisy. They do not see the difference in their actions over those of other emotionally healthy people; as long as it works, all is justified." "Their 'truth' is false, it is an image. They sprinkle little bits of real truth on their lies to make you believe what they say. If you can recognise them for what they are beforehand, then walk away and save yourself years of pain. They will never change because they will never admit they have a problem. If you persist in trying to change them, or if you tell them the truth, they will react with narcissistic rage, calling on family, friends, the authorities, anyone they think they can use to destroy you. After all, you have tried to mess up their image!." (Three quotations from an article on the subject of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (N.P.D.). The underlining is my own, to emphasise the motives which are obvious in Anja's final e-mail to me. It took several long-distance phone calls to assure Herr Kramer that her complaint against me was totally unjustified and a waste of his valuable time. I remain grateful for his courtesy, patience and understanding in the matter.) For more quotations from others who have encountered N.P.D. in their lives, go to here. Important Note and Disclaimer: The material contained herein is presented for the purpose of information only, and should be considered as such. Part of the aforesaid material is compiled from personal experience, and some is based on the voluntary professional opinion of a third party with qualification and expertise in the field of psychology. No animosity, grievance or accusation against any person or persons should be taken as being expressed, implied, or otherwise intended from the content of this web site.